Being A Set

Anyone who knows me knows I spend a load of time on Twitter. While there, I generally get to see and participate in some amazing conversation.

The topic that struck me tonight was someone talking about how they wanted to find that special person that they could settle down with, and being tired of single life.

I know, I may not seem like a good authority on something like that since I have been in a relationship for the past seven years with an amazing man. That seven years has given me time to really grow into my own skin and change as a person. I am a much different person now than I was when we first got together.

What was behind the growth?

Major soul searching. I started to realize that I wasn't getting any younger, that I needed to devote more time to number one before I could truly be a good piece for a set.

I went back to school, threw myself more into art, started writing more, expanding my horizons in general. It's made me much more comfortable in my own skin. I've started to discover what is really me, and I am really digging who that chick is.

The best part? It's the total opposite of the other part of my matched pair!

I'm a total punk rock chick deep down, and he's gangster rap. I'm an adult sparkling fairy princess, and he's darker and twisted. I'm a language enthusiast who loves to read - he's video games and movies.

What makes us work so well is the fact that we are so different, and we roll with it. I am comfortable in who I am, he's comfortable with who he is, and that is why we have lasted so long. There are no fronts, no lies, just openness and acceptance.

It really boils down to loving yourself. Love yourself and you open so many doors to the love of others. Knowing who you are and what you are all about will lead you to more easily accept others and their inner sparkling fairy princess or soccer hooligan.

Try something new. Take a cooking class. Walk around your house naked. Watch a movie that you never thought you'd enjoy. Express your inner feelings with glob of clay.

You will be surprised what a little soul searching can do. You're a damn awesome person, you just have to find who that person is.

In the great words of RuPaul, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else?".